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Reflecting on a Year of Divorce

2020 was many things. The year of a pandemic. The year of growing my business. My son's 10th year on earth. But it was also something that I never thought I would experience- it was my first year of being a divorcee. I didn't really know what to expect when I started this whole divorce process. Honestly, at first I thought it would be exciting. I was finally breaking free of the chains that had held me back for so long, and I thought I'd be happy. I am happy, but not in the ways that I thought I would be. I'll be straight with you- divorce is fucking hard. It takes a lot of hard work to heal these wounds. To pick yourself up from the depths of despair and rebuild your life. To heal not only your wounds, but also the wounds of your child. All the while, working and homeschooling and living through a literal global pandemic. I've learned so much about myself over the past year. Not all good either, might I add. I will be the first one to admit that I am in no way perf
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The One That Got Away

The one that got away.  It's a phrase I'd heard often, but never experienced the pain of firsthand until recently.  I've been through a lot of breakups in my life, including a divorce that should have shattered me- but didn't.  None of those breakups affected me the way this one did. This man set my soul on fire.  He felt like home.  I could listen to him talk for hours and never be bored.  He was everything I ever wanted and dreamed of, and then I lost him.  I lost him because of my own selfish mistakes.  I lost him because I hadn't yet learned some very valuable lessons that I needed to learn in order to be the woman he deserved. It took losing him to teach me those lessons.  The irony of it all isn't lost on me.  I had to lose him in order to become the woman I should have been for him in the first place.  I'm thankful for the lessons, but I still grieve the loss of what could have been. If only.  If only I had met him a year later, when I was fully moved

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